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    Irish novelist and playwright Samuel Beckett received great recognition for his work--but not every one savored his accomplishments. Beckett's marriage, in fact, was soured by his wife's jealousy of his growing fame and success as a writer. One day in 1969 his wife Suzanne answered the telephone, listened for a moment, spoke briefly, and hung up. She then turned to Beckett and with a stricken look whispered, "What a catastrophe!" Was it a devastating personal tragedy? No, she had just learned that Beckett had been awarded the Nobel Prize for Literature! Why couldn’t she rejoice with her husband’s success? Is this reaction common?

    Biblical position for Pre-Marital Counseling

    The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.  I will make a helper who is just right for him.” Genesis 2:18.   God formed a woman out of the man’s own body, so that she can be “just right for him.”  Anyone who reads the following chapters will see that even the woman God Himself picked for Adam was lured into sin.  How much more easily we fall short of God’s ideal for marriage in our own lives.
    A medical sociologist named Janice Egeland has done some really interesting research on depression among the Amish. One of her findings was that rates of reactive depression are significantly lower among the Amish than among all other segments of the population. In comparison, among evangelicals as a whole, there is virtually no difference in the incidence of reactive depression as compared to the general population.”
    Have you ever wished that the night would be longer so that you don't have to face the day? Or on the other hand do you have terrible nights where you toss this way and that way, no matter what you do you just can't go off to sleep? Do you find yourself worrying about the credit card, and mortgage payment? Have you ever felt like giving up because no matter how hard you tried you seem to have no victory over a bad habit? Have you ever had feelings of worthlessness, struggled with false guilt, lack of concentration, experienced fatigue, and lack of appetite or increased appetite? If you have experienced any one or more of the things mentioned above it is highly possible that you might be going through depression.

    Grieving the Loss of a Loved One

    Going through the experience of loss of a loved one is a horrific experience for anyone at any stage of life. Whether the person who died is a child, spouse, sibling or a parent there will be a period when every human being goes through the pain of loss. However, coping with the loss effectively within a reasonable time frame is essential for maintaining the mental equilibrium. This article throws light into some simple means of helping people who go through grieving the loss of a loved one. 

    Grieving the Loss of a Loved One

    Going through the experience of loss of a loved one is a horrific experience for anyone at any stage of life. Whether the person who died is a child, spouse, sibling or a parent there will be a period when every human being goes through the pain of loss. However, coping with the loss effectively within a reasonable time frame is essential for maintaining the mental equilibrium. This article throws light into some simple means of helping people who go through grieving the loss of a loved one. 

    Psalm 139:13-16 says “For you have formed my inward parts; You have covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are your works, and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book, they are all written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them.

    WE ARE LIVING IN A SOCIETY that is rapidly changing, especially with regard to the institution of the family. Families are increasingly subjected to unprecedented stress and tension. This is manifested in high divorce rates and many single-parent families even among Asian communities.  The divorce rate in America has gone from less than 10 percent at the start of the century to about 50 percent in our day. The rate of single parenthood has quadrupled in recent years.  The cumulative impact of all these changes has been an increasing sense of loneliness and alienation felt by people across cultural lines.  In the words of Josh McDowell, America may as well be witnessing a “crisis of relationships.”
    We are living in an age when the institution of family is undergoing tremendous change. As the divorce rates are up, and single parent families are becoming more common place, families are becoming increasingly subject to unprecedented stress and tensions. Add to this the impact of sudden calamities or accidents that bring families under duress. What is the impact of all these to our Indian community, particularly our young people and their parents?

    What is Christian Counseling?

    I don't have years of training in counseling. How can I deal with the multiple needs of believers in today's world? Pastors, teachers, and other Christian leaders who deeply desire to minister to the needs of hurting people, frequently voice their feelings of inadequacy in handling the myriad of problems in their congregations and groups. Many Christians are trying to overcome past issues such as abuse in childhood, broken homes, and parental addictions. Other face current obstacles such as marriage and family problems, substance abuse, depression, and phobias. As these believers turn to church leadership for counseling, we as leaders must provide biblically sound direction for them. From my own experience as a professional counselor, I have found that Temperament Therapy is an excellent tool for equipping clergy and laity to become competent counselors to the Body of Christ.
    In a recent Christian family seminar attended by scores of South Asian Christian parents and children, a parent lamented on her plight of bringing up her children: "As Christian parents, we cannot go by psychology. We have to either train our children right, or forever find ourselves frustrated by arguing with them." While one can very well sympathize with the dilemma faced by this mother what seems less clear is the basis for her apparent distrust of the mental health profession.

    The Power of One!

    We have a tendency to emphasize size and numbers; assuming that ministering to an individual is considered somehow less of a ministry than preaching to a capacity crowd under the glare of video cameras. We forget that a society or community is no more worthy than the individuals constituting it. An architect may design a mansion which calls for a million bricks. A mason while building it, cannot use a thousand bricks at a time, or even ten bricks at a time, but just one. When it comes to building God's church, as in building a mansion, you have to deal with ONE at a time. One is the most important number, we have to care about. Jesus, for all what we know, did preach to crowds, but personally built up only a small number of people. This he did not do twelve at a time, or even three at a time, but one at a time. People are complex. They can be influenced in a mass movement but to build them you need one-to-one impartation.

    Suicide: Is There No Other Option?

    Suicide is an intentional and self-inflicted death. The tendency today is to view suicide in psychosocial rather than moral terms. Most social scientists agree that suicide is the result of complex psychological, and social causes. Psychiatrists, for example, have found deep depression to be common among those that commit suicide. ..